Your Birthday is a Major Holiday

Discover a new approach to transform your experience into one that is more satisfying and delightful.

Birthdays are supposed to be happy, yet sometimes aren’t. Or they’re festive—but not fulfilling. Whether you enjoy celebrating your birthdays or not, this book is for you.

With a wise and refreshing voice, award-winning author and birthday aficionado Tamar Hurwitz-Fleming understands the complex emotions that can arise as the day approaches and believes in the power of the day to uplift and honor your unique existence. Now she’s here to share thoughtful ways to embrace the moment and ignite the spark.

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In How to Have a Happy Birthday, you’ll discover

A comprehensive guide to everything you need to know about becoming “birthday-positive”

Thoughtful questions to help you identify and ease fears, so you’ll discover what will bring you joy on your special day

Anecdotes, creative plans, and new ideas to help you find the magic and shape your day

What to do—and NOT to do—to transform this celebration into pure enjoyment

Tips to dodge the birthday blues, a personal workbook, and much more!

How to Have a Happy Birthday is a thorough dive into a day that is often glossed over or trivially observed. Whether you are 18 or 80, if you like heartfelt advice, straight-forward information, and refreshing points of view, then you’ll love this book.

Read How to Have a Happy Birthday and receive the true gifts your birthday promises! (P.S. This book makes a great birthday present!)

"A trove of ideas regarding positive change, gratitude, and self-care, disguised as a birthday book."
— Kirkus Reviews

endorsements

"Filled with wise insight that inspires and motivates readers to thoughtfully create their birthday celebration with as much good energy as possible, this book is an invitation to experience the transformative joy a birthday can provide. Tamar Hurwitz-Fleming’s voice rings true with kindness, compassion, and unique birthday sparkle."

RAE DUNN

Artist and Author of In Pursuit of Inspiration

"Tamar Hurwitz-Fleming has masterfully crafted a direct answer for those of us who have ever questioned our self-love, worthiness, or personal power. This book is for everyone who is willing to explore how we celebrate our birthday as an entry point to our mental health and social wellness. With spiritually wise instruction, Hurwitz-Fleming guides us through storytelling, deep observation, and self-assessment into an interactive experience that supports our ability to design more than a happy birthday—it’s truly an integrative holistic approach to designing a healthier life."

Marianna Sousa

Social Wellness Leader

"There are countless books and articles on the significance of all major holidays, with one glaring exception: our birthdays. How to Have a Happy Birthday makes a potent case for not only why birthdays matter but also how to celebrate them in ways that enhance the human experience. All of our lives are singular and sacred, and centering our birthdays is indeed a spiritual act. Finally, there is a book I can recommend to my clients who struggle with their birthdays."

Deborah Cooper

MA, MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist

"Birthdays can be wonderful expressions of our unique time on earth but are often fraught with disappointment and missed opportunities. This book is a soothing balm, and the guidance offered is tender and robust. Hurwitz-Fleming uses personal anecdotes as well as teaching stories to illustrate her birthday wisdom—everything from the mundane to deeply powerful spiritual truths. She endows the reader with all that is needed to take charge of our birthdays and create the joy that is possible in them. If you’ve ever wished you’d had a happier birthday, this book is for you."

Alicia Elkort

Author of A Map of Every Undoing